When we're in a new place, we've all wondered where the bathroom is. And the automatic answer that comes to mind is: "Down the hall to your right". But this isn’t always the case. In fact, most of the time, to know where the bathroom is, we have to ask again or go and find it ourselves. This seems like a good analogy for a space where I can only give you some coordinates.

The way to it, however, you will have to discover yourself. My role is only to channel different ways of seeing and explaining how we function. I present them to you and raise questions so you can find your own answers or at the very least, start to go out and look for them.

i love you

Evolutionary anthropologist Anna Machin, who studies the genetics and neurochemistry of love from a wide perspective, has it clear: “Love is so important, that evolution has seen fit to engage every mechanism in your body to make sure you’re as close and bonded as you can be.”

Let me tell you, we humans are

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cognitive bias

Although, a cognitive bias – also known as psychological bias – it's defined as the tendency to make decisions or to take action in an unknowingly irrational way, I would like to add something in their favour.

A mental bias it's also a shortcut that your brain uses to get quickly to an

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Toxic positivity

As humans we feel a wide range of emotions, each of which plays its role in our general well-being. Anxiety may alert us from potential danger; anger is a natural response to injustice or mistreatment and sadness may signal the intensity of a loss and it's necessity to mourn it.

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When your emotions are managing you in a way they throw you off, we commonly fight back trying to block them out. That extra glass of wine -maybe a bottle- after a bad day at work? Binge eating, alcohol, drugs, gaming.... you name it. There is a full range of options out there to numb what you feel. To avoid what you feel. But unfortunately, shutting them (momentarily) doesn't make them go away. Instead of ignoring them, what about asking yourself,...how do you feel? Just notice, be aware. No need to react to it right away. Maybe the secret relies in not denying how you feel but in not identifying with what you feel. Emotions are biological suggestions, not undeniable truths to blindly rely on.  Emotions emerge as the result of that permanent never ending inner conversation we have with ourselves. We think we are what we think, what we feel. But we are not. As in the practice of meditation, it's not about stopping your thoughts, and consequently the emotions derived from that inner chatter, but just to change your relationship with them. Emotions want attention? Provide it to them. Sure, that's why they are so persistent and noisy. But after inviting them over for dinner, start questioning them. Put them on trial. It's about time not to be directed by your emotional patterns, but to wisely choose how you want to relate to them

When your emotions are managing you in a way they throw you off, we commonly fight back trying to block them out. That extra glass of wine -maybe a bottle- after a bad day at work? Binge eating, alcohol, drugs, gaming.... you name it. There is a full range of options out there to numb what you feel. To avoid what you feel. But unfortunately, shutting them

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